Sunday, July 14, 2013

Deciding to move

It's no secret that I want to get a house of our own. The house we are in is old and needs TLC. I have considered asking Firefighter's parents to buy the house and then bull doze it or use whatever sustainable structure there is, but I doubt there is any. The house has had termites in the past and currently we are dealing with flying carpenter ants. When I think about what it would cost to reconstruct this house or to construct any house, I fear that we could not afford it. I am actually pretty certain that we won't be able to afford that. 

I know I have talked about it on here almost ad nauseam, and for that I apologize, but it's big topic that tends to occupy too much of my brain and I need to get it out. 

Our housing options are limited in the city where we live. The cost of living is getting more and more expensive here and I fear that our options for this city are limited. The "handyman" specials are being sold just within our price range. So needless to say that means that we would hardly be able to afford the repairs. It also means that we may have to look elsewhere for a house. The other options we have include a 20-25 minute drive every work day of the week or a 45 minute drive every work day.... and as our luck would have it we can afford the houses that would include the 45 minute drive to work. Now this wouldn't be a problem per say if at least ONE of us worked in that city, NP we will call it. But both of us work in Sota. How do you decide to move when your commute could possibly go from 7 mins for me, 10 mins for FF to 45 mins.... EVERYDAY!?!?!?!?! OMG....the cost of our gas would sky rocket!!! And would that be a financially smart decision?? Would that make moving the worse decision???

This is where I am struggling....the amount of house that we can afford in NP (3 or 4/2, 1600-2000sq ft), is equivalent to 3/2 1200 sq foot house in Sota. And then with that in mind the amount of yard you get is significantly less in Sota as well. NP over all has better housing options. Not to mention that it's smaller and quiet down there, and that appeals to me.  When we go down there to hang out with our friends, I feel a sense of calm when we pull off the interstate. Not sure what that means or why it happens.

AND THEN.... I worry about friends and family. Most of our friends are here and all of my family is here... how do you move away? Now granted we are not hours and hours away, we would be possibly 45 minutes away and that is far, or at least it feels that way. I fear that IF (BIG IF) we ever moved to NP then we would never see some of our friends and family. And that has been a deciding factor for me. I don't know if that is a good thing to use as a deciding factor. I need to be concerned about what is best for Firefighter and I! But sadly, that is not completely how I am built... I care about those things. Ugh!

I guess these things shouldn't really concern me right now since we aren't seriously moving. We are talking about it. We are considering it... We don't have a prequalification letter yet either.

What would be the biggest deciding factor for you to move??? 

1 comment:

  1. It's too bad we have to sacrifice one thing for another when we buy a home. I'm very against long commutes in general unless you have to because it really cuts into your life and time so much. I don't see 20-25 minutes as a super long commute though. I do about 30 every day there (about 20 min back) but it's more if there is an accident or rain. It's literally 14 miles. If friends can't drive 14 miles to see us every then maybe they aren't really my friend! It's a huge difference from 7 minutes but for the house that you could get I think it's worth it.